Don't Get Your Hopes Up

Have you ever had a dream or put expectations on things that didn’t come to fruition?

I think we all can say that we have had dreams that have yet to become reality or fantasies of living a certain life which have yet to take root. We all have probably experienced more heartache and more disappointment than we care to recognize, but it is what we choose to do with that disappointment that is significant. 


I am travelling halfway across the country today to interview for a new job. I am not quite satisfied in my current job, and I have been searching for more. I want more out of life. I want to wake up each day and know that my life serves a purpose. I want to know that my life makes a difference in other’s lives. I am willing to step out of my comfort zone to see what God has for me, even if it means moving away from my family, my friends, and starting over. 


I had a conversation with one of my colleagues today who knows that I am interviewing for this position. The advice she gave to me was, “Don’t get your hopes up.” Let me preface this by saying that I love and respect this lady very much. I know she meant well when she said this, but I have a problem with this statement. 


What is hope? According to Steve Scott, author of The Richest Man Who Ever Lived, hope is “the fuel that keeps you moving toward the ultimate fulfillment of a vision. And each step you complete drives you even more powerfully and quickly toward the achievement of your vision.” If that is the definition of hope, what is wrong with “getting your HOPES up”? 


If hope is what fuels our desires and helps us achieve our goals and turns our dreams into realities, then why do we even say this phrase? What fuels us to think this way?


 BECAUSE WE ARE AFRAID TO FAIL!


The fear of failure holds too many of us back from actually reaching our true potential. It is this fear that keeps us “stuck” in our current situations. It is the fear of feeling disappointed, hurt, rejected, insecure, et cetera that fuels our fear. 


Instead of viewing hope as a positive and motivating emotion, we view hope with fear and trepidation. God forbid we ever are disappointed from outside circumstances. So many of us become paralyzed by this fear and never even set goals. 

We literally become sick when we are not meeting goals, creating vision for our lives, living purposefully, and getting our hopes up. But when our dreams are fulfilled, and we are constantly able to set more goals, our life becomes a “tree of life”.


If we never experienced hope, dreams would never be fulfilled. The wise King Solomon said in Proverbs 13:12, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a dream fulfilled is a tree of life.”  We literally become sick when we are not meeting goals, creating vision for our lives, living purposefully, and getting our hopes up. But when our dreams are fulfilled, and we are constantly able to set more goals, our life becomes a “tree of life”. You are then able to help give life and oxygen to others because you are living life as it was designed. 


Never let the fear of “getting your hopes up” hinder you from dreaming, hoping, setting goals, and taking actions. Always remember that failures and successes are on the same road; you cannot achieve one without the other.

“Get your hopes up” and eventually your life is like a “tree of life” and your hopes become dreams fulfilled. 

 

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Erika Sheffer is an Entrepreneur, Marketing Strategist, Digital Influencer, Podcast Host, YouTuber, Wellness Activist, and Content Creator.